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s dealt with money and business; sports or amusement accounted for 14 percent; and other men, 13 percent. While in the case of women talking to women, conversations involved men in 44 percent of the samples, clothing in 23percent, and other women in 16 percent. In the case of female-male conversations, women talked to men about other men in over 20 percent of the samples and about other women in 13 percent. Men, on the other hand, talked to women about money and sports or amusements in one-fourth of the samples and about money and business in over one-fifth. So men's greatest conversational interest seemed to be business and money, followed by sports and amusements. Women's leading topics were men and clothes. Persons played a smaller part in men's talk and a larger part in women's. 1.3 The use of humor Another way in which communication behavior seems to vary by gender is the use of humor. It has been said that women as a rule can not tell jokes. They kill the punch line or they mix up the order of the happenings. The telling of jokes and the use of humor serve as an acceptable outlet for aggression, according to Freud's disguised aggression, then we may theorize that women would use humor less in female-male interaction, for any show of aggression might be threatening to a male. Recently we conducted a workshop on the use of humor in speaking. 80 percent of the group was male. Before the session, one women met one of the writers in the hall to tell her she was dropping out, explaining, “I can't go through with it," The few women that were in the group appeared uncomfortable. For one young woman in particular, participation in the session was obviously an effort. When her turn came, she presented her narrative well until she reached the place of the expected humorous ending. At that point, she began to speak rapidly and introduce nonsequiturs. Laughing nervously through her verbalizing all the while. The group, at first curious, then puzzled by the narrator, soon become increasingly amused. While the males in the group seemed to take great relish in recounting their favorite anecdotes, they appeared eager to vie for laughs from the group. Those males who claimed no talent in humor still took obvious pleasure in proving the opposite true. 2．Gender differences in nonverbal communication In addition to the spoken language that we hear daily, a host of silent message continually occur us. These messages make up a nonverbal code, which is used and responded. Some time ago Freud said,” He that has eyes to see and ears to hear may convince himself that no mortal can keep a secret. If his lips are silent, he chatters with his finger tips; betrayal oozes out of him at every pore." To be more skillful communities, we need to be aware of nonverbal cues and to use what has been learned to improve commutation. Just like the gender differences in talk, they also exist obviously in nonverbal communication. Women seem to be more sensitive than men to social cues, compared with verbal ones, than males. Not only have women been found to be more responsive to nonverbal stimuli; but they apparently read it with greater accuracy than males. You may think that nonverbal awareness is an inborn trait and that females are more sensitive and responsive to nonverbal cues from birth. However, it seems more likely that females learn to become nonverbally sensitive at an early age because of their socialization. When a group of teachers took the cou